Church, Music, and some other stuff

Why Some Churches Are Crappy Places To Be

Church splittingDisclaimer:  If you’re new to my blog, I don’t always use crazy titles like this one.  I’ve just found it appropriate lately.

I remember my first time to ever share my faith with someone like it was yesterday.  I wanted to invite a buddy at work to church with me. It took me months to finally gain up the courage to do it. (Yea, I was a sissy)

Finally, one day we were just laughing and talking about who knows what, when I said, “I’m playing a two night event at my church this weekend. You should come hang out with us.”

His face got serious as he paused for a second.  He then looked me in the eye and said, “Church…been there, done that.”  This has marked me forever.

I started to realize in that moment that it isn’t God that most people have a problem with, it’s the church.  It’s man’s corruption of what God intended church to be that people have a problem with, and honestly, I have problem with it too!  The church is the biggest weapon Satan has against the church.

To many people have been hurt by the church.  And honestly, it’s because a lot of churches these days are crappy places to be.  They’re full of anger and a sense of entitlement.

As a church, we are to set the example for the rest of the world. Our churches should be a solid rock in this fragile world.  But that’s not the case at all, is it?  Churches are splitting faster and more often than ever before.

The world is sitting back and laughing at us.  We wonder why the divorce rate is so high, and why abortion rates are soaring.  It’s because you know what, we HAVE set the example for the world.  And ladies and gentlemen, the example we have set is to split and run when things get tough or don’t go our way.

We’ll make signs and go out and picket against an abortion clinic, or rally together and eat at a restaurant that doesn’t support homosexuality, but when we don’t like our new pastor’s speaking style, we duck and run like a bunch of cowards. We stick a knife in God’s bride and split her right down the middle.

The solution is simple.  It’s that old Tina Turner song. “What’s love got to do with it?”  If love would become our first priority, the world would change.  If we would stop getting caught up in politics, abortion, gay marriage, and music style, and just start to love the world, it’ll change.

Jesus knew what he was doing when he commanded us to love.  Love is the most powerful force in the universe.  Use it.

Any thoughts on why churches split or why people tend to avoid the church?

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  1. Danny

    Great Article!
    Im a worship leader at my church(small church im 18 btw) I read all the article you post about worship and YES I agree with everything. But the thing is I dont know what to start with? Or more like what the first step to fix it?

  2. Hunter

    The scary thing is, is that the modern day churches have so much in common with the New Testament Pharisees and Scribes! They both don’t do well with change, and they believe that playing the church game makes them righteous and they doubt anything that threatens there power! Well said though, I like how it’s evident that this was said out of love because many Christians these days picket and protest to condem the lost when Jesus did none of that!

    • Shalon

      You hit the nail on the head with what you said about the pharisees and scribes. It’s so true. Thanks a lot Hunter!

      • Bella

        Apieicpatron for this information is over 9000-thank you!

  3. David Good
    David Good01-31-2014

    Tough words that need to be said. I agree wholeheartedly. The only thing I would add is that for every church described in your article there are others that are getting it right so I still have hope for the Church. Thanks for speaking the truth.

    • Shalon

      Thanks David! And I agree with you as well. I believe that there will be an outpouring of His Spirit before He returns.

    • Gerri

      Me dull. You smart. That’s just what I needde.

  4. Omar Brito
    Omar Brito01-30-2014

    I like what you’re saying. I agree that carnality is at the heart of church splits and people leaving church. What did they do in the 1st century church? They submitted to their leaders and trusted in Jesus. Leaving or thinking that you’ll just do your own thing is short sighted. No on is ever encouraged by anyone who leaves. Unless they are being launched out as a missionary. In which case they’re still linked with their home church. Leaving is taking matters into your own hands. This issue applies to so many areas in life. We should learn from Abraham ‘s example, don’t take matters into your own hand’s, but wait on the Lord. When you decide that you’re not leaving you open the door to new opportunities that your church or pastor may need. Either way it glorifies Jesus. Nick Vujicuc says that if God doesn’t give you a miracle, you are a miracle of God for someone else.

    • Shalon

      Hey Omar, thanks for sharing! This is good stuff. I love this quote “if God doesn’t give you a miracle, you are a miracle of God for someone else”

  5. Terry Stafford
    Terry Stafford01-30-2014

    Exactly! Until recently, I had been a member of a church in Florida that had split, and I landed in the position of worship leader on the conservative side of the split. Mercy! But we went through a long journey of change, shedding legalism and oppressive leadership. The outward sign of the inward change as they say, was when we led this ultra-conservative a cappella Church of Christ into the age of contemporary instrumental worship. Lord what a day when the breakthrough unveiled itself. I wrote a book about the experience called Freedom to Worship:One Church On a Journey. Not a plug necessarily, but just to make a point that this was huge and I wanted other churches on the fence to see that it could actually be done with the right leadership. Thanks for keeping this conversation going. Blessings.

    • Shalon

      Man, I bet that was an awesome experience! It’s always amazing to see God change lives that we think can’t be changed.

  6. Eddie Worship Dude
    Eddie Worship Dude01-30-2014

    You like to go out there on your analogies…lol. In my experience churches split because of pure greed. greed for power, placement and greed of me me me. Really don’t believe that abortion is due to church splits. You can’t put two things together that really are in the wrong ball park. Kind of like playing frisbee on a target range… Abortion is due to a lack of love, that point is correct. Churches are dying because of Religion, that is true. People don’t want to come because we ( until the problem is fixed we are part of the problem) have a hard time loving them through their flaws, the way Christ loves us. Here’s a quote from a booklet I penned for my team, “to connect people to Him they need to feel loved and a part of something. To keep people coming back to church they need to find substance in what we present to them. To revolutionize people’s lives we have to present the truth”. As always thanks for the read I’ll be thinking about it. Be blessed my brother- Eddie worship dude.

    • Shalon

      Hey Eddie, thanks for sharing this!. However, I never said that “abortion is due to church splits.” I simply pointed out that we as a church aren’t setting a great example for the world. We also have this mentality to fight against the people who are pro-abortion, when the mentality should be to fight abortion, not the people. And the way you fight abortion is by loving the people.
      I love the point you made about people needing to feel loved and a part of something. I totally agree!