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Why Do Christians Love To Argue?

Church ArgumentToday we’re going to talk about the trinity and why it is the correct Biblical view.  I’m kidding!  I say that because I felt like leading with a good example of what not to say around Christians …unless you’re planning on wearing a helmet and shoulder pads.

It’s comparable to posting “Barack Obama 2017” on facebook.  You better get ready for the ride of your life!  This all leads to my point today; why do Christians love to Argue?

A few years ago, I worked a pretty tough warehouse job for a metal manufacturing company.  It was a good opportunity to share the light of Christ.  Seeing as how every conversation between the guys I worked with was full of vulgar comments about girls and how hung over they are from the party the night before.

I was excited when a guy from work told me about a new employee we just hired who was also a Christian.  I had to meet this guy.  On my way over to talk to him, my mind was full of thoughts and opportunities for us to work together in sharing Christ’s love.

After I introduced myself, I said, “I heard that you were a Christian, so am I.”  He looked somewhat pleased and responded with (And I’m not even joking), “Cool.  What do you believe about the trinity?”  I wanted to fake a seizure.  Are you kidding me?!  I was pretty disappointed to say the least.  He was strongly opposed to the trinity and was seriously fishing for an argument.

This story may be an extreme one, but the point is still the same.  So often we like to make a big deal about the minor things of religion, and we loose focus of love, compassion, and Jesus.  Yes, Iron sharpens Iron, but that’s a lot different than trying to stab someone in the gut with the intent to kill.  How you say something, and your motivation for saying something, speaks much louder than the things you actually say.

I want to encourage you to be a world changer.  Not someone that sits around commenting and arguing on youtube videos.  I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but people in our own neighborhoods are dying and going to hell!

I can’t imagine someone like Billy Graham leaving a comment on a Beth Moore video, saying something about why women shouldn’t speak in church.  The best way to change the world is with love.  (That sounded very hippie-ish)

I continue this topic here in Why Some Churches Are Crappy Places To Be.   Agree/disagree?  I want my site to be an example of what it looks like for Christians to talk about issues without someone getting their head slammed on a pew.

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  1. John-Rock Bilodeau
    John-Rock Bilodeau01-22-2014

    I agree that we shouldn’t get caught up in the little things or maybe start off a conversation with someone that we first met with a deep theological questions, but I think that we should be careful in how we take this message, because we should still be able to help correct other Christians who may have misunderstood certain parts or the Bible. If other Christians don’t correct them who will? but it needs to be done in a loving way, not just to argue.

    Also, I wouldn’t exactly call to point about the trinity as “minor thing”. Some people may ask you a direct question up front, like what do you think about the trinity or who do you believe that Jesus is, to see if you are in fact a Christian. There are many religions or denominations that call themselves Christian but don’t believe that Jesus always existed as God, or that he was created, or didn’t really die on the cross and all kinds of things that go against the core beliefs of Christianity.

    • Shalon

      Hey John,
      I appreciate your thoughts, and I agree. “we should still be able to help correct other Christians who may have misunderstood certain parts or the Bible.” It’s all about how and your motivation for saying it. There is also a time and place for these things.

  2. Curtis Ellis
    Curtis Ellis01-22-2014

    Hello Shalon,

    Jesus said in Matthew 12:25, “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand.”

    Satan knows this, and that’s a tactic he has always used to turn the Body of Christ against each other. Paul knew that man would find things to argue over and warns against dissension in 2 Timothy 2:23 when he said, “But avoid foolish and ignorant disputes, knowing that they generate strife.” And also in Titus 3:9-11 he says, “But avoid foolish disputes, genealogies, contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and useless. Reject a divisive man after the first and second admonition, knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self-condemned.”

    Yes, it is arrogant to think we have all the answers or a certain denomination has all the answers. And we definitely should not seek to be confrontational with anyone, especially our brothers and sisters in the Lord. If someone asks us, yes, we should be prepared to have an answer for the faith that we have, but we must do so in meekness (1st Peter 3:15), but more importantly, we are to speak the truth IN LOVE. 1 Peter 4:8 says, “And above all things have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins.”
    And John 13:35 says, “By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.”

    Is that what non-believers see in us? We are suppose to be the salt of the earth. Salt that loses it’s saltiness is thrown out. (Matthew 5:13)

    I was just reading about how denominational barriers have fallen by the wayside amongst persecuted Christians living in Syria. There is a remnant of believers who haven’t fled who are staying despite bombings and killings and they are all meeting together in churches where many previously would not set foot in due to their denominational biases. Now they see that the vital common unity they share is their belief in the Father sending His Son to be the atonement for our sins and they are willing to die for it, rather than deny Him as Savior. Their persecutors don’t distinguish between denominational beliefs. Why do we? As a matter of fact, not only in Syria, but historically Christianity has grown the most in times of persecution. Maybe we need a little testing of our faith in order for us to get back to focusing on what’s truly important; loving God and loving others and being lights in this dark world.

    • Shalon

      Once again Curtis, you amaze me with your thoughtful, scripture filled response. Thanks so much for sharing this!

      • Curtis Ellis
        Curtis Ellis01-25-2014

        You’re welcome, Shalon. Your blogs are what spark off these small Bible studies among your readers. And that’s a really really good thing. We appreciate that. Shalom Shalon.